Many people who have dated a while will readily acknowledge that they have had their share of great relationships that did not start out that way.  Often men and women come together – with their own preconceived notions about togetherness – and quickly things go wrong.  In these situations it is important to initiate a fast-repair process to keep the duet alive.   This then can be replaced with a modified ‘go-from-here’ strategy that can result in a better relationship than they previously had.  

Aside from the simple recognition that something is wrong, you should have some idea about what the root cause of the problem is.  If you are not sure what went wrong, then you need to remedy this before it can be repaired.

Start a conversation to get at the problem.   If this is not easily done with priming observations on your part then you will have to be blunt.  Nonetheless, you must get to the root problem if it is to be solved.

Come up with a planned scenario for dealing with the problem, whatever it is, that plays into your hands.  If you cannot tell, for instance, how your partner really feels about you and you believe that varying perspectives on the real status of you duet may be at the heart of the problem – then you have got to ask.   This presupposes, however, that there is a relationship to begin with.

Once you have identified the problem then you can engineer a solution.   You can then decide how to put it in place.   Come up with a strategy that puts you in the driver seat and think through how you will execute it.  For an example, if someone was hurt by accidental cause and this precipitated arguments or the like there is clearly a target for correction.   This is clearly a scenario where a special evening – dinner in a posh nightspot or dancing in the moonlight – can be set up to provide the setting you need.

None of this strategizing is, however, a replacement for and honest sharing of feelings.   If someone got their feelings hurt then an apology is in the offing.  If you disagree about structural issues in your duet, then try and reach a compromise that allows you to get to where you both can tell if you are serious about one another.   That will enable you to get to a more defined relationship wherein it will be obvious to both parties if it can be something permanent.

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